“So if you think your life is complete confusion because your neighbors got it made, just remember that it’s a grand illusion, and deep inside we’re all the same”
It sure is easy to look around and think to ourselves that life would be a whole lot beter for us if only we had… (fill in the blank)
It’s a challenge for sure in this Infomation Age, which was ushered in on the heels of the Sit-In-Front-of-the-TV-for-Eight-Hours-a-Day Age. I mean, if you live in America, you’re being absolutely assaulted on a daily basis with advertisments telling you about all the things you really need to be happy. From the right brand of beer to upgrades in the kitchen, if you pay even the slightest amount of attention, it seems you’re falling behind the good life by the hour!
Of course, that’s actually not the case.
Listen, if none other than Albert Einstein, and well, Styx have told us that most of what we think of as real is merely illusion, we should probably lend a little merit to it. What if it’s all subjectve? What is there really is no such thing as objective reality?
No objective reality? As kooky as it sounds, you’ve heard me say it before, and I think there’s really something to it. We tend to perceive things other people have to be better than what we have, and that creates a direct corelation in our minds to the true value of both lives. Theirs is better…ours sucks. They’re probably really happy and we’re mostly just depressed. Damn them!
The good news is the truth is actually much better than the way we allow ourselves to think.
No matter how hard it seems to resist, what you don’t want to so is sit around wishing to trade destinies with anyone. The grass is only greener on the other side of the fence for one of two reasons; either the other yard has been fertilized exceptionally well (and you know what they use for fertilizer), or you simply haven’t been watering your own yard enough. That’s it.
I want to tell you that in the vast majority of cases, it’s the latter. And the grass only seems to be greener. Every yard, regardless of it’s aesthetic majesty, comes complete with its own set of wonderful problems and challenges. “Yes”, you might say, “but they have a gardener to deal with it!”
Okay, the straight dope is if the cat next door is driving an S550 and you have a Pontiac…YES, they have a nicer car. But that means one thing and one thing only…right now, at this moment, they happen to get around town in a nicer auomobile than you. That’s it! It doesn’t mean thay are better than you, and it doesn’t mean you won’t ever have a nicer car than them. If that ends up being something that matters to you. So, don’t lose faith.
Now, let me also say this; I’m not trying to live in the land of make believe here. A person who drives a Mercedes is highly likely to have put in some meaningful work to be able to afford such a car. And could even be at a much more advanced state of consciousness (right now), and perhaps has attracted to themselves some of the finer things in life that they wish to enjoy while they’re here. Of course they could be up to their ears in a monthly payment, and not be able to afford the gasoline that goes with it…you never know. What I do know is that the Benz doesn’t create happiness or a better quality of life. That starts inside you and not a car dealership.
So, splash a little metaphorical water on that reality of yours, and change your perspective.
You ARE who you ARE, you are not what you have or even what you’ve done to this point. Don’t skirt resopnsibility though; your life looks and feels like it does because of some of the things you’ve done or not done, and the things you’ve focused on and put your attention and effort into. The current circumstances just don’t need to be what defines you. So don’t let it.
Happines is choice. You can make it in any instant that you are alive. You could start right now. Yes, even when you hear the glorious sound of that German-engineered engine purring in the driveway next to yours. Read more about making the decision to be happy here >> Dare to Be Happy
Get in touch with the real you. Get still and quiet and look inside yourself for some answers. Listen to the voice of God. Honestly, the person you’re looking for inside yourself is that version of you who is worthy of driving the nice car that you really love. Become that person. And it’s not about seeking the car…but rather about seeking to be the person who deserves it, because you will have given so much of what’s inside you back to the rest of the world. All of your unique and amazing gifts and talents will be the tools to get you there. I’ll say it again, become that person. Become the greatest version of yourself. The version that you know you were born to become. It’s really not so much about a car anyway…it’s more about watering your yard.
And shut the damn TV off…