You’ve probably heard the phrase “fake it until you make it” before. If not, it is commonly used by someone in the work place describing the idea that if you aren’t quite ready for the job you’re about to take on, perhaps via promotion, just pretend that you are, and learn as you go. You dress the part, play the role, talk the talk and the thinking is that eventually you will become the person you are pretending to be. Sounds pretty adventurous, doesn’t it?
In theory, it has some pretty strong merits.
After all, if you’re in growth mode, and this could be in your personal life or your professional life, sooner or later you’re going to get to a level where you’ve never been. Since quitting doesn’t make much sense, you need to do something to be sure that you can keep growing and moving in the right direction.
The “faking it” part of the equation comes from this notion that, on the job, you need to persuade the higher-ups to believe that you are ready for the new challenge. Even if you really aren’t.
Again, it makes some sense, and I really sort of like it.
However, I like to shift perspective just a tad and say it like this: Believe and achieve.
The reason that I prefer to position it that way is because it’s so much more empowering. Believing in yourself and knowing that you already exist at that higher level is a totally different take than having to fake it because you’re not sure. It removes doubt and fear and creates a mindset which is much more conducive to your personal success.
The decision to become better at anything is an instantaneous one. If you believe in your mind that you operate on a higher plane, then you do…provided that your actions line up with the faith you have in yourself. For example, if your goal is to be a better dad or mom to the kiddos, then just decide that’s who you are. Then, rather than faking it, just start doing all of the things that you know the better dad or mom would do each day. In less time that it would have taken you to stress yourself out over whether or not you were doing the right stuff, you will have developed the habits of a better parent.
It’s the same in the work place. If you’re taking on additional responsibility or a more prominent gig, you first make the decision that you’re the perfect person for the job, and then you go about the business of being that person. No faking necessary!
It may seem like just a shift in semantics, but it’s actually a powerful change in your mindset and one that can make all the difference in the world for you.
When you believe in yourself, there is nothing that is impossible for you. And once you realize that you have already made it, all of your attention and energy can be directed toward accomplishing your goals rather than worrying about whether or not someone finds out you may not be the person you say you are. Do you see the huge shift in mentality and the inherent power that exists in believing?
If you want to be the best YOU that you can possibly be, start believing and start achieving.