I was reading something the other day and some dude was writing about how the people who talk about positive thinking are all full of it because nobody can be positive all the time. I guess if he has come across people who think you have to be positive all the time in order to be positive…he makes a good point.
But, I thought his statements were a little off because not everyone who believes in the power of positive thinks you have to be positive all the time, every single minute in order to be a positive person.
If you read my stuff, you know I’m definitely one of those guys.
Thinking positive is a good thing. Being optimistic is wonderful. Being that was all the time, in my humble opinion, is pretty much impossible.
So does that mean that you’re not a positive minded person if you feel crappy one day. No, of course it doesn’t. I’ve said before that being positive doesn’t mean walking around like The Joker with a grin literally plastered to your face. To me, that’s not positive…it’s kinda kookie…and a little scary.
Being positive is more about a mindset. It’s about looking for the good in the circumstances around you, remaining optimistic and focused on the opportunities that exist in every situation, and for the most part, being cheerful and enthusiastic.
There are going to be bad days. Some lousy things are going to happen. The more you can shift your perspective to realize that bad is often how we perceive things, when they really do contain some elements of good, the better. But it’s a learning process. You grow and learn by experiencing things and reacting to them. You won’t always be able to do it with a smile. You’re going to experience frustration and disappointment. You’re human.
Because you’re human, you need to take the pressure off of yourself. If you’ve thought of being positive or thinking positive as sort of an all-or-nothing deal, where you’re either on all the time, or you’re just like the rest of the complainers and negative folks in the world…you need to get that type of thinking out of your head.
Relieve yourself of that pressure right now. You are setting yourself up for some real lousy nights staring at the ceiling if you put unrealistic expectations like that on yourself. I liken it to the religious person who believes they’re saved and going to heaven unless they slip up and do something bad, and then at that moment they’re right back on their way to hell. Holy strait jackets, Batman! That kind of thinking will drive you to the looney bin!
You’re gonna slip, you may even fall. As long as you get back up, you can get right back into the groove. Don’t think that positive thinking or a positive attitude, or being optimistic means you can’t have any thoughts to the contrary, ever. That’s just not the case.
Keep the positive mindset and do the absolute best you can every single day. It’s okay to frown, it’s okay to get angry, and it’s okay to have one of those days…and along those lines, it’s actually most effective if you recognize that it’s okay to be upset and just vent. Get it out, so you can move on.
I wrote a piece about letting all the bad stuff out whenever you hit that wall. If you’d like to read more about that, check this out: Learn to Unleash
Don’t worry about perfection. Strive for it at your own pace and don’t lose sight of the fact that you get better and better with each experience in life. Some great, some good, some not so good, but all valuable.
Oh, and smile as much as you can. It is good for you!