Sometimes it seems like arrogant people are more bold, doesn’t it?
And it sure feels like those conceited, ruthless, greedy people are a lot more powerful than the rest of us, right? (I’m assuming of course you’re not one of the conceited, ruthless or greedy people I’m referencing).
Sure, they can be louder in social settings, and they are truly adept at putting other people down, often in front of their peers. But the truth is that the loud, obnoxious, cocky, and entitled among us are really cowards. Weaklings cleverly disguised as big shots.
The art of insulting someone is really just the learned ability by a person to make someone else look or feel smaller in a particular setting, in order to exalt themselves. It’s a pretty tried and true way of doing it, I’ll give them that, but it does have its inherent limitations. For example, there are a lot more people now who can see through such a ridiculous attempt at self-elevation through the mere act of making fun or telling an embarrassing story about someone else.
Also, most of us are a little more hip to how ridiculous a self absorbed blow hard really sounds, and it kind of becomes a buzz kill. Even in those settings where no one is actually buzzed…
Still, when we hear things like “Fortune favors the bold”, we tend to think of those out spoken, shamelessly self-promoting, fast-talking meat heads before we consider ourselves.
Here’s my take…
I think the most powerful people on the planet are the humble ones. The ones who realize that every day is both a gift and an opportunity. You know, the kind of people that dream while they are awake and have the courage to go out and become the person that they were meant to be. Not to impress or to make headlines, but to make impressions and establish guidelines. After all, real success leaves clues. The phony kind sort of keeps to itself.
I recently posted on the Habitual Victory Facebook Fan Page: “Arrogance leads to self destruction. A humble spirit is more bold and more powerful, and leads to success beyond imagination”. Let that one sink in. And while you’re pondering…come join us at the page if you haven’t already. Here’s the link: Habitual Victory on Facebook . We would love to have you be part of the our fast growing community.
There is great power in realizing that you can change the world. But changing the world in the most meaningful way possible starts from the inside. It starts with that fire that burns in your belly and tells you that you are capable of doing amazing things…all the wonderful dreams and vision you have! That’s your stuff and you can make it happen!
None of us have the right to be famous or powerful or wealthy or any of that stuff. But all of us have that opportunity.
I often say that a slight shift in perspective can make the most monumental difference in your life and have the most profound results.
Fortune does indeed favor the bold. But not necessarily the loud or the bullish.
Focus on the power and strength you possess on the inside. Learn to use the tools that you have come equipped with. You are as unique as you are special and you are alive with a chance to make this crazy world a better place.
You don’t have to do it by bad mouthing others or talking down to people. You really don’t have to climb any ladders by trampling those who may be trying to climb as well. In fact, the whole ladder metaphor sucks in my book. I like to look at life as a true journey. There is a wide road and it has many travelers. It narrows in places, without question, but when you get to those parts of the road that start to get a little scary and skinny, rather than push someone out of the way, how about asking them how they got there, or if they know what lies just ahead over the horizon. You might even team up with them and make the next leg of the trip a joint venture. In my mind, these are much better options than shunning or scarring those you may learn from.
It’s not a race, people. If it was, you and I would already have lost…BIG TIME. Seriously, do you know how many people have lived a full life and finished the journey before we even had the chance to start?
Here’s the challenge: Be humble. Be thankful. Be confident. Be bold. Be brave enough to become the person you were meant to be.
The experiences will be more fun, your friends will be more authentic, and the spoils, well the spoils are just the icing on the cake of a life filled with passion and purpose.
Then you can just just laugh at the big mouthed egomaniacs running around spreading the gospel according to them. Because once you’ve shifted your perspective, they really do sound kinda funny. That may seem a little harsh or judgmental for me to suggest you laugh at them rather than at least try to convert them…but hey, I’m human, and I’m always up for a good laugh.
See you on the road…