I tell people that when their “Mondays” start to feel like their “Fridays” they are on to something! Of course I usually have to clarify that I said “onto something” and not “on something” because most people can’t fathom a Monday being anything less than a full day of depressing torture.
On the other hand, there is an almost giddy excitement that grabs hold of even the toughest individual when they wake up in the morning on a Friday and realize they are only a few hours away from the freedom and fun that a weekend brings to their lives.
So what’s the deal?
We thank God when it’s Friday, but we feel like we’re going to hell every Monday…
In my opinion, it is the greatest indicator that we have as to whether or not we are following our heart and doing what we are most passionate about in life.
Now, before I really piss you off by repeating some old adage like, “do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life”, let me just say that I totally understand it’s not so easy to jump out of whatever reality you currently reside in to the wonderful fantasy world of your dream work life. It’s not even close to easy.
But I also don’t want to feed into the thoughts of limitation that hold a whole lot of people back by making it sound like it can’t be done.
Maybe we can meet in the middle…
First, you need to figure out why it is you feel like calling in sick every single Monday. Or get a job that allows 52 sick days. In lieu of the latter, sit down and write out the reasons that you are miserable at you job. Is it your boss? Is it the corporate culture? Is it the annoying co-workers? Is it the commute? Is it the lack of recognition for your effort? Is it just plain boring? Is it too hard? Really give it some thought. The reasons that you come up will help you in defining the type of thing you really would like to do for a living.
Which brings us to the next point; think about the things you do like about what you currently do every day.
Look for an angle that lines up with something that you feel very strongly about or love to do. Pay attention to that because that is the direction you want to go in if your decision is to stay where you currently are.
Maybe you can’t think of anything you like.
If that’s the case, there is absolutely no reason for you to be there!
Look, I said that I know it’s not easy, but I don’t want to sugar coat this thing either. If you’re getting up every morning and commuting to a place that makes you miserable, stressed, tired, unfulfilled and empty, and you don’t already have some sort of exit strategy, then you are either totally insane or you have no respect for yourself.
Respect yourself. You are a wonderful and valuable person!
It’s time to start living. And what you do for a living needs to meet the standard of excellence that you should be setting for yourself.
You are a unique individual and you are extraordinary in your own way. There are also things that you are extremely passionate about. I will tell you that the nutshell version of a successful life is this: Do the things you are most passionate about, using the talent and gifts you were born with, and the for a living thing will take care of itself.
You might be thinking, “But I can’t do what I really want to do. I would never be able to make enough money doing what I love”.
It may not seem like it. But I can assure you that when you’re in tune with yourself and you start giving back to the world in the manner which you were born to, life has a wonderful and majestic, almost magical way of giving back to you all that which you require to be happy.
I had a great conversation with a colleague of mine recently, and we got to talking about doing what you love versus doing something else to make a good living.
He told me that he really wanted to be a teacher, but that he knew he couldn’t make a lot of money doing that. It sounded like a pretty good point on the surface. But that would be if you thought about being a “teacher” in the traditional sense of the job.
I explained to him that I have been a teacher my whole career without ever having set foot in a classroom.
And it was because I changed my perspective and learned to apply what I was most passionate about to what I’ve been doing with myself for the better part of the last twenty years.
My passion is people. I am driven by my desire to help others. I love to teach and I love to coach. I’m inspired when I’m able to work with individuals, be it one on one or in a group setting. Whenever I have the chance to teach, train, motivate or just work with someone, I get a rush. I feel like I’m doing what I was born to do. Being part of the process of taking someone from where they are to where they want to be is why I get up every morning. And I’ve been applying that to my life every day for as long as I can remember.
You can do the same thing.
If you have a job which will allow you to do something that you love, then you need to seek out a way to get started on that. Find a channel where you can start to release that talent and positive energy that you have. Become the person that you know you are but haven’t felt like you could be in your current capacity. Look for the opportunity and take it!
Now, if you happen to be in a job that has no way of ever allowing you to fulfill yourself, then my honest suggestion is simply this: Get out! As fast as you can. I would not recommend quitting without having some place to go, though. So please make sure that you’re responsible as you seek something else, but for the love of God…start looking! You need to stay where you are to the degree that it is helping you survive, financially for example, but you need to be actively pursuing something else. And make sure that it lines up in some way with the things you care about. Look for a job that requires the skills or talents that you know you have.
Don’t just take a gig because it pays well either, especially if it has absolutely nothing else to offer you. And the reason is this – at some point, the money won’t be worth the suffering. Plus, once you find the right situation and you do start to utilize all of the natural ability you have, you’re going to grow. You’re going to get better and better. And that’s going to lead to bigger and better opportunities. At some point those nice paychecks will be there for you. I can assure you of that. The most important part of doing anything for a living is the living part. Believe it.
I’m challenging you a little already, so I’m going to take it up a notch and say this: Get started now!
If this sounds like a good idea to you that’s because it is. I don’t really believe in chance or luck (at least not in the traditional way they are defined), so if you are reading this post, there is a reason. The reason is that you needed to hear it. So take that message and apply it.
Figure out what you want to do with yourself, and get started doing it. Your life will thank you!
You have to admit that the concept of waking up after a fabulous Sunday evening and greeting the new day with a “Yes! Thank God it’s Monday!” is pretty appealing.
Honestly, how cool would that be?