Okay, I’m going to assume that you have a desire to be as successful as possible in this life. If so, I’m also going to assume that you have some goals for yourself. However, I won’t assume that you are absolutely committed to do whatever it takes to be successful and that you will not stop or waver until you have achieved your ultimate result.
The reason I won’t assume that, is because this is the place where most people slip. They either quit at the first sign of adversity and challenge, or they get so far off track that they eventually just run out of energy and let the vision of success fade into the sunset of their journey.
So…if you haven’t made the decision to commit to do whatever it takes, but you still feel like you’re on the right path, let me ask you a couple of challenging questions that might help you focus a little more and get you where you’re going a little faster.
First, what standards are you holding yourself to? And second, how are you measuring your success?
The reason I ask about standards is because a lot of pretty intelligent people, who seem to be mostly focused, still don’t make themselves accountable enough to ever achieve the results they are capable of.
If you have changes that you need to make in your life, or habits that need to be formed (successful habits), then you have to accept nothing less than total commitment and execution from yourself. As I have heard Tony Robbins say, you have to turn your “shoulds” into “musts”. You cannot be content with merely knowing that you should do something. The follow up has to be intense, and you have to become the ultimate micro-manager of your own effort. If something is going to get done, your mindset has to be that it must get done. No exceptions…no excuses. There can be no such thing as a lower expectation.
If this becomes your reality, you will be amazed at the changes that you make, and you will be even more amazed at the results you start to experience.
Now, the reason that I ask about how you measure success, is because most people get this one all backwards. Most of us associate success in this life with the stuff we obtain. We don’t think of things like happiness as being synonymous with accomplishment.
I read a great quote the other day, from Esther Hicks. She said, “The standard of success in life isn’t the things. It isn’t the money or the stuff. it is absolutely the amount of joy you feel”. I thought that was pretty good! Now, hear me out, I’m not saying that the money and the stuff aren’t the ultimate prizes for a life lived successfully, or that you should settle for having less than you will need to have the greatest impact on your life and the lives of those around you. But, I share that quote in an effort to suggest that you can start being successful right now, in this moment, by taking control of yourself and feeling joy. You can make that conscious decision to feel successful. To feel happy. To feel fulfilled.
I’m not talking about trying to fool yourself (as if that were possible), but rather changing your perspective and mindset to match that most successful version of yourself, which just may not have happened to materialize yet. Once you have made the decision, then it just becomes a matter of living up to your end of the bargain. In other wards, you have decided that you are successful, and now you just have to start acting like it on a daily basis. I wrote about this idea is more detail in a post called Take a Second to Become the Best. Feel free to check it out.
So how about it? How are you actually holding yourself responsible for your own success? And have you realized that there is power within you to become the person worthy of achieving your boldest dreams and greatest desires?
I’m now going to assume that you just started making it happen. Congratulations!