Being a dad rules.
I may not be an expert, but I sure feel like I’ve learned a lot in the nine years that it’s been my major responsibility. So, I figured I’d impart some words of wisdom and maybe help someone out there be even better than they already are.
The truth is, all of our situations as dads are a little unique. But there certainly are some things that we all have in common.
By the way, any of you moms out there…I wish I could say, just take what I’m saying about dads and apply it and it will work for you, too…but we all know that moms and dads are different and have different important and crucial roles to play. You can still read the post, though!
Here’s something that I have found to be an awesome truth…
You need to be a dad and not necessarily a friend to your kids. But, and this is the great part, that doesn’t mean you can’t be involved in a very cool and special relationship.
I read somewhere that you needed to be a father first, because imagine how traumatic it would be for your kids when you had to discipline them if they thought of you as their friend. I see the logic, but I don’t think either of my kids have ever confused me for their best little buddies. First off, I have out weighed them both by anywhere from 100-200 pounds during their life time, and I’ve always been a healthy two or three feet taller than them as well. So, even though that stuff was written by a psychologist who is probably really smart and has awesome intentions, I don’t think you have to become “Discipline Guy” with no sense of friendliness at all. And hey, I studied psychology in school, too!
Your relationship just has to be a little different than an all-out friend. And, in my opinion, it’s a better role anyway.
You get to make all the major decisions, and you get to teach them virtually everything that will shape them for the rest of their lives. And that’s something that I suggest you take very seriously, and embrace it. Your life experience is crucial to their development. Teach well.
One of the things that I wanted to establish early for my children was that school was where they would learn to read, write and do math. All of the other important “life stuff” would be taught at home. And of course, they learned to read and write and do math at home, too.
Which brings me to another really big thing you should be doing as dad; reading to your kids.
If you take the time to be involved in something as intimate as bedtime stories will be rewarded in ways that you will never stop reaping. Show them you care, teach them how words work, and also let them read to you.
And here’s a fantastic way to build trust and enhance your positive relationship with your kids; when speaking to or listening to your kids (or hopefully both), bend down or go to a knee and look them in the eye.
These are just a couple of things I’ve learned and thought I’d pass along. It never ceases to amaze me though how the simplest things, when applied, can have the greatest impact on our lives.
If you haven’t tried these, go for it. If you have some other great tips for all of the dads out there, then please comment and share. Dialogue is always a good thing…especially when it’s for the kids.