Friday February 23rd 2018





February 2018
« Jul    
Personal Blog Directory

Follow HV on Facebook

Parental Guidance

Here’s one for the parents.

As I was writing for my blog this evening, I was outside enjoying a beautiful southern California evening, and watching the kids play in the pool.  I am always moved when I hear my kids laughing and enjoying themselves.  They are real characters, too.  I consider myself lucky to be able to share in their lives, and I take the responsibility of being dad as serious as a big kid at heart can possibly take it.

Inevitably, and no matter how hard I try not to be sappy, I always end up waxing sentimental when I sit and watch the little ones for long enough.  And, as such, here I go again…

Life is precious.  Life is amazing.  Life is a gift.  And it can be enjoyed moment by moment, if we can only teach ourselves to stay in the present, and not wander.  As I was writing tonight, I was definitely in the moment, and also very inspired.  I got caught up in thinking about being a parent.  How totally cool it is, and how it can also be pretty scary.  It’s extremely challenging at times, yet rewarding at the highest level.  And if you really tune in, it can be the most fun you have on this planet!

I only have to observe the amazing way that my kids experience their lives and grab as much from each moment as they possibly can to realize that I better not ever lose that enthusiasm for life, myself.  And I need to always be conscious of doing the things I need to do as a parent to prepare them for their own journeys.

I remembered reading a real reflective poem about the things that one parent would do, if they could raise their child again, knowing what they know now.  So, I started searching for it, and I found it.  It’s a very touching piece, written by Diana Loomans.  Diana is a speaker, author, success coach and the founder of The Quantum Life Institute.  I know you’ll enjoy her poem.

I have posted it before, and I’m sure I will again at some point.  I’d love for you to read it, and let the words speak to you about the magic of life and the opportunity all of us have to be kids again.  If you’re a parent, listen to how you can start each day fresh, and do those things with the kids that are really most important in life.  If you’re not a parent…read it anyway, and let me know how it makes you feel.  Enjoy…

If I Had my Child to Raise Over Again

If I had my child to raise all over again,

I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later.

I’d finger paint more, and point the finger less.

I would do less correcting and more connecting.

I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.

I would care to know less, and know to care more.

I’d take more hikes, and fly more kites.

I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I would run through more fields, and gaze at more stars.

I’d do more hugging and less tugging.

I’d see the oak tree in the acorn more often.

I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.

I’d teach less about the love of power..

And more about the power of love.

Reader Feedback

6 Responses to “Parental Guidance”

  1. Mike, this is an outstanding post and list of “do overs” – very nice! As a parent who currently waffles between both extremes it’s a great reminder! Glad to have found you on UBC – tweeted!

  2. This was an amazing post! I wrote my post first today before reading any others… I too talk about how precious life is, especially thinking about how 29 years ago I lost my dad. And with my son and husband it’s “Sappy” and “Pappy” 😉
    You have gained a follower, Mike!
    Dream On!

  3. avatar Danny says:

    Thanks for sharing that beautiful poem. I am printing it out right now. It amazes me that we as adults spend so much time reading books on meditation, flow, and “living in the now”, while at the same time our children are in the background playing and actually experiencing “just being”. Children are truly our greatest teachers.

  4. avatar Nancy Rose says:

    What a great poem. And glad that you are able to enjoy life as a parent now instead of wondering how you could have done it different later.

  5. avatar Amanda says:

    This is great! I will keep this in mind since I have a 18 month old. Hopefully I won’t have to raise him all over again!

  6. avatar Ali Bierman says:

    Beautiful post from a very present Dad. How great that you enjoy your kids and learn from them. Makes life so much richer!

Leave a Reply