Have you ever noticed that when you’re in a crummy frame of mind things just keep happening to you to sustain that mood?
It’s like God or the Universe has this really funky and warped sense of humor.
Here’s the scenario: You wake up in a bad mood and as you get out of bed you feel your back twitch. “Oh, perfect!” you say to yourself with a full batch of sarcasm…then you get in the shower and drop the soap, repeatedly…now your back really hurts, you’re mad at the soap and off you go to go grab some breakfast before you rush out the door. Since you don’t have much in the way of time, you decide to throw something in the microwave. It isn’t quite as good as you thought it would be, and so you don’t finish it. “Yuck” you whisper to yourself.
And now it’s time to hit the road…only you get cut off backing out of your driveway by some old lady with blue hair and a puffy white poodle. “Watch where you’re going you [blankety-blank-blank]“ spews out of you so very naturally at this point…and of course she doesn’t hear your banter or your car horn because she hasn’t really heard anything since 1987…this REALLY makes you mad.
Then, you remember that you forgot your watch or your glasses or your wallet, or some other really important piece of life that you never forget but for some strange reason this morning it wasn’t in the place where it “always” is… “THIS IS CRAZY!” you shout, as you are now audibly speaking to yourself…really, really audibly. The drive is as miserable as a morning commute can possibly be, and of course it is, since you are now completely off track, late, and in absolute mental-meltdown mode. The cars around you drive slower…don’t use their turn signals…seem oblivious to your plight, and after dealing with them for what seems like hours, you finally arrive at the office.
The first person you see is the one that you can’t stand the most…you’re not a hateful person, you just don’t get along with this particular guy or gal…and what comes next? Well, it just so happens to be the day that they have decided to turn over a new leaf and so they try to strike up a conversation with you. The sound of fingernails scratching a chalk board is more appealing to you than this person’s voice, but you listen, and wait for your turn to talk. You know it’s your turn to talk because the evil, penetrating sounds have stopped and there is an uncomfortable silence…but you don’t know what to say, so you default to, “Don’t talk to me, I haven’t had my coffee yet”. Nice! The person walks away shaking their head and mumbling under their breath, which makes you a little paranoid and even more upset.
You get to your desk or cubicle or work station and you have three voice mail messages and thirteen e-mails. Out of those sixteen forms of communication, only four of them are what you would consider pleasant. The rest represent some sort of emergency for the senders which you have to solve sometime in the next five minutes. All of them. Simultaneously. Your head does not actually explode at this point, but you imagine what it would feel like if it did. And the day drags on…and so on, and so on, and so on…
Sound anything close to familiar?
That is my version of “one of those days”. And whether or not the specifics match up to your experience(s), I’m absolutely certain that you can relate to it on some level.
WHY does this happen? WHY does bad always go to worse, and worse to….EVEN WORSE?
Quite simply, it all has to do with a universal principle that we have come to identify as The Law of Attraction.
You’ve heard of it, right? You may have seen the movie The Secret, or read Napoleon Hill’s classic book Think and Grow Rich. If not, then let me take just a moment to explain. The Law of Attraction in the most basic sense states that you attract to yourself all of the events, circumstances and people in your life by virtue of giving your predominant thoughts to them. Basically, the things that you focus on most in your mind are the things that play out in the physical world around you and make up your fate. And the thoughts can be conscious or unconscious. You may have beliefs that are hidden on the surface but which are responsible in a very real sense for the creation of your reality.
It’s remarkable stuff. And as best I can tell, it’s entirely true. It seems to be as solid a hypothesis as one could make for any universal law, such as gravity for instance. Although when you add the science of thought, and how our minds work in determining the way we act and the decisions we make, it gets a little more muddled than, “Throw that ball up in the air and it comes down. Every time.”
The Law of Attraction seems though, to be one of those principles that works regardless of whether or not any of us believe it’s true. It could be said to be the technical moniker for all of the labels that we give to the fateful events around us; luck or bad luck, chance, destiny, karma, or my personal favorite, mojo. And it really predates any of the New Thought or positive thinking individuals who have brought it to the forefront, and whom you might be familiar with. It seems to be a Biblical principle as well. “A man reaps what he sows”, as stated in Galatians 6:7 (New International Version) seems to be pretty clear. If you have read the Bible, then you might also be familiar with the idea that “as a man thinks in his heart, so is he”. That phrase is taken from Proverbs as well as the book of Matthew. Both of these principles seem to line up pretty nicely with the idea that we create our reality in a large part based upon how we think, and that the way we act or react to situations has a very real way of coming back to us.
I also believe that the Law of Attraction is a perpetual law. In other words, the more energy and attention you give to any particular kind of thought; frustration, anger, fear, jealousy, or hatred will inevitably create for you situations which continue to bring those emotions and feelings out of you.
In layman’s terms, it is what we might call “a real bummer”. Or, as stated earlier, “one of those days”.
There is some really good news regarding all of this stuff, in fact, you may have already been thinking about it. That good news is that the law works the same way for positive thoughts!
And this is why I think it’s so important to consciously be happy and positive. Of course you may have to force yourself sometimes, but I think you would agree that it’s a much better idea to get your mind rolling down that path than the alternative one.
You have likely experienced a morning or a day or even a week that was quite the opposite of the scenario described earlier. One where you got out of bed whistling a tune that you might have heard the night before, thinking that you have a pretty great life, laughing when you dropped the soap for the fourth time, and so on and so on…
That approach then leads to more events and circumstances that will keep you in tune with those positive feelings and emotions. It can make your life seem magical.
So don’t allow those little lousy feelings to become dominant ones. Don’t give any life to the negative emotions. Instead, laugh and enjoy yourself. You are alive and you are perfectly capable of controlling your own thoughts and feelings. You can make the decision to be positive in any given moment, and you can make it throughout every day that you are drawing breath. Because of this wonderful gift, you have control over how your reality starts to unfold.
And wouldn’t you rather have the rest of the world laughing with you?