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It’s in the “Can”

I’d like to suggest that you remove a word from your vocabulary.

The word is “can’t”.

My kids know that the word “can’t” is not acceptable in our house.  And they love it.  You should make it unacceptable in your house, too.  Kids or not.  We decided to throw it out years ago and I will tell you it has made a tremendous difference in all of our attitudes and self confidence.  When you shift your perspective from focusing on the way you may have always done things (or not done things) and start to see that possibilities exist all around you, it is empowering.  Plus it’s good for the soul…and a whole lot of fun!

This doesn’t mean that it never comes up, it’s just that we are very conscious of it and it feels pretty weird to say it.  At least with a straight face.  In fact, when someone in our house does say, “I can’t”…we all immediately stop, think about it for a few seconds and say, “It CAN be done”.  And then we go about figuring a way that we CAN do it.

Hey, sometimes it’s hard.  But surrendering to anything as if it were impossible before you even think about it is pretty silly.

It’s such a nasty little word anyway.  It truly reeks of defeat and laziness.  It sounds irresponsible and extremely limiting.  Seriously, without challenging yourself a little, how do you ever know that you can’t do something?  If we only did the things in life that we were positive we could do, based on our experience or what we have observed, we would never expand or grow.  Say it with me, “Bor-ing!”

Now, if you’re talking about running faster than a speeding bullet, leaping over tall buildings in a single bound or flying through the air like Superman…well, you’re right, you can’t do those things.  But I don’t know how often that even comes up in conversation over the course of at least a  fairly normal lifetime.  I’m guessing probably never.

“Can’t” should be a word that you just avoid at all costs.  Don’t even let yourself think along those lines.  You may choose not to do a particular thing at a given time, but it is likely not because you couldn’t do it if you were to give it your effort.  Maybe won’t is a better alternative, but even then it seems like you’re just ducking out on yourself.  Selling yourself way too short.

So I say throw it out!

Hey, here’s a cool little poem I found about that thing, whatever it may be, that can’t be done.  It’s by Edgar A. Guest.  As for my two cents?  I agree with Edgar and I say, “it CAN be done”.  Check it out and see what you think.  I’d love to hear your comments.

It Couldn’t Be Done

Somebody said it couldn’t be done, but he with a chuckle replied,

that “maybe it couldn’t”, but he would be one who wouldn’t say so till he’d tried.

So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin on his face, if he worried he hid it,

He started to sing as he tackled the thing that couldn’t be done, and he did it!

Somebody scoffed, “Oh you’ll never do that; at least no one ever has done it”,

But he took off his coat and he took off his hat, and the first thing we knew, he’d begun it.

With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin, without any doubting or quiddit,

He started to sing as he tackled the thing that couldn’t be done, and he did it!

There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done, there are thousands to prophesy failure,

There are thousands to point out to you, one by one, the dangers that wait and assail you.

But just buckle in with a bit of a grin, just take off your coat and go to it,

Just start to sing as you tackle the thing that “cannot be done” and you’ll do it!

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