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It Has To Be You

No matter what you do in life, be yourself.  Be real.  Be genuine.

There is absolutely no substitute for authenticity.

One of the biggest mistakes that anyone can make is trying to find happiness or success in being like someone else.  The reason that it won’t work for you to the degree that it could is because you will never be totally vested in the process until you’re in tune with your own purpose.  In other words, unless you’re being YOU, you can’t possibly achieve your best life.

I’m not suggesting that emulating someone who has achieved success is wrong.  I like to say that “success leaves clues”, and I think that you should definitely apply the principles of achievement to your life.  If someone has accomplished something that you would like to do, then pattern yourself after them for sure…just don’t try to be them.

There are a lot of traits that can make someone successful, and the combination of attributes that you possess are exactly what you need to get there.

And here’s another awesome benefit that comes your way as a result of being authentic; people will respond to you.  In your day to day life, you’ll find that you’re able to create relationships that have real purpose.  If you’re in business, you’ll begin to form more meaningful and profitable partnerships.  People will come to life when they are around you.  It’s awesome stuff.

I once heard someone say that if you want to be original, just be yourself.  For some reason that statement has always resonated with me.  It sounds so simple that it almost loses the power of its meaning.  And I do think its quite profound.  In fact, we should teach it to our kids, starting when they are very young.  They should know that a person doesn’t have to have a mohawk or a tattoo, dye their hair green, wear black, pierce some interesting part of their body or wear their pants backwards to be unique and stand out.

Unfortunately, this sort of belief can easily creep in once someone starts to fall into their place amongst the herd, having been subject to years of limited thinking.  How’s your mindset?

If you haven’t been giving yourself enough credit for being the unprecedented individual that you are, the good news is that it’s never too late to change your perspective.

You are a wonderfully created being and you have skills and talents that no one else on the planet possesses; at least not in the same way that you possess them.  All of these wonderful gifts are yours for a reason.  You’re not “just a number” or a “face in the crowd”, but rather an awesome and intricate person, full of purpose.  And your journey  to the greatest and most  exuberant life you can possibly live all starts with getting to know who you are, embracing that dude or gal and living authentically.

I have a cartoon that I keep on my office wall that I think is pretty funny.  It reminds me of how important it is to be genuine, because it pokes fun at the opposite mindset.

The cartoon is a picture of a man, presumably a sales manager, standing in front of a conference room and presenting to a group of reps.  The caption reads, “People like sincerity.  Learn to fake that and you’ve got it made”.

It still makes me laugh…in fact, I think I’ve worked for that guy before…but the philosophy of faking it in order to get results is about as bad as it comes.  Eventually, people find out, and you never end up achieve anything the way you could have had you only been true to the person in the mirror.

Get to know YOU.  And then get about the business of being YOU.  Learn that and you really do have it made.

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5 Responses to “It Has To Be You”

  1. Great article Mike! I broke out laughing out loud at the end! Thanks!

  2. This is my first introduction to your blog, Mike, and I really enjoy your style of writing. This piece is fabulous! So many others write about authenticity but your perspective adds some nice little twists and turns … and a bit of humor, which so few people possess. 🙂

    Write On! And let’s cheer each other on during Connie’s 30-day blogging challenge. We can do it!

  3. avatar Mike Shippey says:

    Laureen – I’m really glad you likes it, and that is one of my favorite cartoons…I laugh every time, too.

    Melanie – Thanks for the leaving such nice comments…I’m so glad that you found the blog!
    Yes, we can definitely get through the challenge…one day at a time.
    Take care

  4. avatar Karen says:

    Great post! I was a good little robot all through school, conforming as best I could. Now? Not so much. I like things a little livelier and a lot more creative. I love reminders like this that nobody else can be the best me I can be–except me!

    If I don’t fit some perfectionist mold or group mindset, I win. Of course, that’s easy for me to say, since I rarely join anything, thus rarely feel pressured. Are my tendencies to be a loner coming from fear that I could once again get stuck in shackles? Hmm. Must test that.

  5. avatar Mike Shippey says:

    Karen – by all means, put it to the test! YOU are an original and there will never be anyone like YOU!

    Thanks for the comments.

    All the best

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