Well, here we are! The end of another year. A chance for all of us to reflect on the last 12 months and all of our achievements, and a chance to start over with a clean slate, a fresh list of resolutions and a renewed attitude. Same as it ever was…same as it ever was…
Chances are, you didn’t do a whole lot of what you should have done in 2010. However, I’ll bet that you did everything you absolutely had to do. What do I mean by that? Let me explain it.
One of my mentors is Tony Robbins. In fact, he’s one of the most inspirational people in my life, period, and he has been since the late 90’s.
One of the most profound things I’ve ever heard Tony talk about is the concept of turning the “shoulds” in our lives into “musts”. Because the truth of the matter is, until we make something a must in our life, it’s highly unlikely that it will ever get accomplished.
Think about it. I’m sure there are all kinds of things in your life right now which you can think about and say you should do them, right?
For example; I should lose that extra 10 pounds, I should start exercising, I should start eating better, I should do a better job of keeping in touch with my friends, I should get started on that project I’ve been talking about for the last six months, or I should take control of my life and start doing the things I’m most passionate about…
Sometimes you might even take it up a notch from there and talk about the things you really should do.
I should, I should, I should, I should…
And because of this, as I love to say (borrowing from Tony again) we end up “should-ing all over ourselves”. Pretty messy.
However, when we identify the things we must do, and then engage the mental, physical, and emotional resolve to do them…amazingly, and maybe even miraculously, we find a way to get them done.
Think about your life right now. To this point, you have accomplished everything that you told yourself you must do. I guarantee it. You have everything that you have realized you must have. Your relationships, the balance in your bank account, the state of your career, the furniture in your place of residence, even the happiness and contentment you feel on a daily basis. It’s all the stuff you must have. And so you do. You see, a must is much different than a want, a wish, or a hope. And, way more important to you that a should ever could be.
This New Year’s celebration, just say no to the things you should do. Instead, resolve yourself to do those things you must do.
This transformation of perspective, while it may seem only a matter of semantics on the surface, is much deeper and will have a very serious affect on your life, in a significantly positive way.
Turning an objective into something that must be done is the only way that you can raise your standard of living. When you hear someone talk about “raising the bar” in order to begin to achieve at another level, this is exactly what they’re talking about, and precisely the way you do it.
There has to be change. And the change you need starts with realizing that, to this point, you’ve been fooling yourself if you’re merely creating a list of things you should do in the New Year.
Last year on New Year’s Eve I posted, Happy New You, which was about being the best YOU that you can possible be, and how the resolve to be YOU will be the best decision you can ever make. I still stand by that, and believe that this year, you must become comfortable with who you are. Remember, if you must, then you will!
Focusing on being yourself takes another sort of bothersome pressure off of you; it mean you don’t have to try so hard to be someone else. Let them be concerned with that!
So are you ready to make 2011 and beyond the greatest experience of your life? Then here are the action steps you need to take before you pop the cork, don the funny hat and start kissing everyone in the vicinity…or, of course, you can take these steps tomorrow morning, post hangover…
1. Determine the things in your life you’re most passionate about (write them all down…you can revise in a few minutes)
2. Determine WHY those things are important to you (remember the WHAT and the WHY are your domain. See the post What, Why, When and How)
3. Once you have the list that represents your REAL goals and resolutions for the New Year…make them MUSTS.
4. This is an important step! Make sure you look at your list every single day. I recommend once in the morning and once before bed. Focus on the list, visualize the end result, and remind yourself every single day that the goals are not optional, they are essential. You MUST accomplish them.
5. Make it happen.
Okay, that’s it. Funny hat time.
Have an awesome New Year’s celebration…and an even more awesome life!