Bill Cosby is credited with saying, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody”.
I think those are wise words, and should also serve as a bit of a warning for all of us.
As strong as that desire may be within you to make everyone happy, or every situation harmonious, if you’re measuring your ultimate success by the degree to which you accomplish this, you’re in for a monumental letdown.
No matter how awesome, cool, and wonderful you are, you can’t make everyone happy. And regardless of your uncanny ability to make incredible, positive, life-altering decisions, you can’t please everyone. It just won’t happen.
But listen, don’t judge yourself too harshly. It’s really not personal. The truth of the matter is that everyone is responsible for their own happiness. So, no matter what you do, you have no control over how others will react to it or feel about it. Maybe they should all be happy, but they just won’t be. It’s nature’s way…
So what in the world are you to do? Well, if you’re interested in achieving true success and learning to live your best life, your attention and focus need to be on the things that you can control.
Your decisions, your actions and your words are all well within your control. The attitudes, reactions and feelings of others are not.
Make the best decisions you can, based on the information you have, and make them with the right intentions. Take the inspired action you feel led to take and keep moving forward. If you fall or stumble, get up and move on. And, if you can remember to, think just a little bit before you speak. You’ll avoid a lot of trouble, and you’ll learn the true value of effective communication. Oh, and in everything you do, be honest. Be honest with yourself and with those around you. It is after all the best policy.
Chances are your life is pretty damn hard if you’re caught up in trying to control every aspect of it. It gets even harder if you’re trying to control the people.
The real key to successful living lies in taking total responsibility for the things you can control, and relieving yourself of the pressure to control the things you can’t.
And before you blurt out, “it’s easier said than done“, remember that’s only true if you never take a shot at doing it.
You’re much more courageous than you think. Give it your best and see what a difference it will make for you.