I heard someone say the other day that there are really only three possible answers to anyone’s genuine prayer. They said the answer is either “Yes”, “Not Yet”, or “There’s Something Even Better”.
I really think that’s the best way I had ever heard this concept described. I think it’s exactly right. And its also incredibly empowering.
No matter your perspective on prayer or asking, you have to love the idea that is being presented here. It seems to echo the Biblical principle that you will receive whatever you ask for, if you believe with all of your heart that you will, in fact, receive it.
I have thought for a long, long time that there really is no such thing as a flat-out “No” when it comes to asking for something from your heart, as long as you truly believe in what you are asking for and understand why you are asking for it. This was my personal viewpoint of course, and I must say, after hearing the perspective presented the other day the way that I did, it really helped me to solidify that belief.
I’m actually pretty pumped about it!
Although, when I started really reflecting on the times in my life when I have asked for certain things, or more often for help or guidance, while it did occur to me that in the significant cases that I could recall, the answers had indeed manifest themselves in my life as either a “Yes”, a “Not Yet” (meaning it came later…in perfect time), or a “There’s Something Even Better”, I also remembered times where I thought the answer had definitely been “No”.
So I had to turn my introspection up a notch…
When I was honest with myself and, to a deeper degree, was able to analyze those times I had been disappointed, I realized that when I thought I was being dealt a “No”, I was really just dealing with the consequences of my own lack of belief in what I was asking for. I concluded that I either didn’t have true faith in what I was asking for, or I didn’t understand why I was asking for it. And you know what? That makes perfect sense.
Think about the words attributed to Jesus in the Bible, when he said, “Ask and it shall be given, seek and you shall find, knock and the door will be opened”. There really aren’t any minced words there. Notice that it doesn’t say, “Ask and you might receive, seek and you could find, knock and maybe the door will open”.
The Bible also states that “what things so ever you desire, when you pray believe that you will receive them, and you shall have them”. Again, pretty straight forward.
Our own belief in what we are asking for is really the key to the whole process. Believing, or having faith, opens us up to receive the very best in any given situation. But I think it’s extremely important to remember that the answer may not be exactly what we think it should be, and it may not materialize in our preconceived time table. In fact, if the process is to work, we need to drop any and all preconceived notions, and accept that the best will come to pass in the perfect time and in the perfect way.
It’s along the same lines as the principles I wrote about in an earlier post called What, Why, When, and How.
I think for many, praying has become more an act of desperation, than an act of asking. And this really renders the process useless. Petitioning a higher source for anything becomes almost like verbalizing the limiting beliefs we have, but in a backwards way, in the hope that some strange, cosmic reverse-psychology might work on God or The Universe. And much like playing the lottery, it turns into a situation where we end up hoping we might get lucky and actually see some kind of tangible result. In other words, we don’t really believe that what we’re asking for is even possible, but we cry out anyway and throw whatever wishes we can muster into the air.
By the way, the odds for the lottery are probably better for anyone who prays or asks without believing.
When we ask, it is essential that we believe in what we are asking for, and that we are preparing ourselves to receive it. We all need to have the kind if faith that knows what we are asking for will certainly come to pass; and the trust that it will happen in one of the three ways mentioned earlier. It will either happen now, at some other time which is perfectly in line for us, or something better and more in tune with our greater purpose will happen instead.
I know, it sounds easy. And truthfully, it’s not. It’s a powerful and dramatic shift in mindset and it will probably have to replace a belief system that you already have in place. What you should know however, is that it’s the kind of shift in mindset that can literally be life changing.
Prayer may be something you have always equated with hope or wishing. If so, you have likely reaped the benefits of that. In other words, at the risk of sounding a bit more secular, it’s just been a real big crapshoot. Nothing to really get excited about.
It’s definitely worth your consideration, and my challenge to you would be that you give it some serious thought.
You can have absolutely anything you ask for, or something even better, if you can only believe in your heart that you will receive it.